You’ve heard the phrase ‘an
attitude of gratitude’. Being grateful. We’re very good at complaining,
aren’t we, but how about gratitude? What are you grateful for? You’re probably
grateful that tomorrow you are on your Christmas holidays? Or maybe you are sad
that you won’t see your teachers and school staff for two whole weeks. I’m sure
they are all sad too!
Gratitude is an emotion that we choose
to feel at any time. It’s like tapping in to this FREE happy energy source. You
actually make a decision to focus
your mind on feeling grateful and you decide
to make time for it. As an emotion, gratitude is good for the soul. Much
research has been
carried out on the links between gratitude and wellbeing. Psychologists have found
that cultivating an attitude of
gratitude brings about an increase in happiness and can reduce anxiety and feelings
of depression. They have found that gratitude impacts positively on physical health
as it lowers blood pressure, strengthens a person’s immune system & promotes
a healthy heart. It can decrease stress & helps us sleep better – so if
you’re having trouble sleeping instead
of counting sheep, count your blessings. There are many health benefits to
gratitude – it’s actually physical good for you!
Gratitude also promotes a healthy mind; it changes our perspective by
clearing away most of the petty, day-to-day things that annoy us and that we
give so much of our time to: the “small stuff”. Think of situations that bring
up feelings of impatience or anger.
Gratitude can help calm all of those things and make us aware that we are part
of something bigger, something beyond ourselves, a connection to others, as
well as to the world. Gratitude strengthens our relationships and encourages us
to pay it forward. It helps us to be
more generous and compassionate towards others. So, what’s not to like about
gratitude?
Another
reason to try to cultivate an attitude of gratitude during this Advent season
is the story that we are about to celebrate in a few days: the story of the
birth of Jesus Christ. It is an extraordinary story, a simple yet bizarre story;
a story which gives hope to billions of people 2,017 years later all over the
world. The story which we celebrate this Christmas and every Christmas is a
story where we are told that God is with
us – summed
up, that is the message of Christmas – God
is with us. God is involved in the messiness of this world. Where is God
born? Not in a fancy palace surrounded by royalty and people who were
considered important. God, Jesus Christ, is born in a stable! It’s mad, but it
happened. Jesus is born into a situation that is totally dangerous; Jesus is
born into a homeless family, a homeless family that would soon afterwards
become a refugee family. Jesus is not born into a fancy mansion with all the
trimmings, Jesus, God on earth, is born into a dangerous mess. And the message
of this story is that God is with us in the mess. It’s not Princesses or politicians
who come to welcome Jesus into this world, there were shepherds, people who were
considered ‘not worthy’, outcasts, the poor and the ‘unimportant’. God is
especially born for them. The message of the Gospel begins at the crib: God is
on the side of the poor, the lonely, the homeless, the refugee, the outcast.
And throughout Jesus’ life on this earth, he continued to live that message,
always siding with those that society did not want to know about. His message
was peace, hope & love. So this year when I think of gratitude – I think
about how grateful I am to hear that message, that God is with us in the mess of this world, in the mess of our own lives,
God is with us in our broken
friendships, in our family problems, in the homeless person on the street, with
the homeless family.
You might ask – where? I don’t see God! But I invite you
to look around at the goodness of those who are working tirelessly to help
others in need, look at the generosity of people, the love that is shared by
people especially during this season. I know your own school does so much
charity work and here also we have had so many generous donations to foodbanks,
Vincent de Paul, Crosscare – people are so so generous. For that, this year, I
am very grateful and it also says to me - God
is with us in those generous people.
I invite you
this Christmas to write a list – not a wishlist for presents or whatever, but a
list of things you are grateful for. Look back over your year, try to write a
list of ten things you are grateful for – not presents or gadgets, go deeper
than that. You might even hang your list on your Christmas tree or put your
list in the crib if you have one at home. Write a letter to someone telling
them how grateful you are for them, because let’s face it – these are the real gifts, the real
blessings. And on Christmas day, in the middle of the madness, take a few
minutes, pause, thank God for all that you have, pray for those who don’t have
anything, if you don’t do it for God, think of all the health benefits I mentioned
at the beginning – it’s actually good for you, for your mind, body and spirit. You
might visit our crib – say a prayer of thanks – tell someone you love how
grateful you are for them in your life.
What are you
most grateful for over the last 12 months of your life? God is with us also in
those moments of joy.
I wish
you all a very happy Christmas, I hope it is full of joy, time with family and
friends, and I hope it cultivates in you an attitude of gratitude.